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Conventional wisdom asserts that the secret to success comes down to the amount of self-control you possess. Whether it’s to do with your health, wealth, or happiness, it is commonly believed that the more self-control you have, the higher your chances are of leading a happier and healthier life compared to those who don’t.<\/p>\n

But what exactly is self-control and how does it work?<\/p>\n

In this article, we\u2019ll discuss what self-control is, the power it can have, and other notable factors that are outlined in Kelly McGonigal\u2019s book, <\/span>The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

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What Is Self-Control?<\/strong><\/h2>\n

You know that feeling when your alarm goes off at 6 am on a Monday and instead of getting up and going to work you’d rather stay in bed and continue sleeping, but then you realize that if you don’t go to work, you could be putting your job at risk, and if you lose your job you’ll no longer be able to pay the bills and you may get evicted, so you drag yourself out of bed and head into the office? That, ladies and gentlemen, is self-control.<\/p>\n

Having <\/span>self-control<\/span><\/a> is what enables you to overcome impulses, temptation and emotions, as well as regulate your behaviour, in order to attain long-term goals. Established<\/span> in the prefrontal cortex, it’s the reason why you’re able to consider alternative actions and keep away from things you may later regret, instead of responding to every urge that comes up. The ability to exercise self-control is known as willpower.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The Power of Willpower<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Along with discipline, determination, and fortitude, willpower is regarded as a form of self-control<\/a>. It’s what you apply when you decide to not eat a second serving of dinner despite the meal being incredibly appetizing or when you forgo the cigarette your friend has offered you because you made the decision to quit two weeks ago.<\/span>\"donuts<\/p>\n

Dr. Kelly McGonigal<\/a> describes willpower as the mind-body response that can influence all areas of your life, from physical health to relationships, to professional and educational success.<\/span> A health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University, she wrote the international bestselling book, <\/span>The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It<\/a>.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Her book discusses self-control and willpower in detail, and their impact based on research and cutting-edge insights from psychology, economics, neuroscience, and medicine. It gives readers an understanding of the various facets of self-control and how it can be used to their benefit.<\/span><\/p>\n

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5 Lessons We Can Learn About Self-Control from <\/strong>“The Willpower Instinct”<\/strong><\/h2>\n

1. Without self-awareness, self-control is useless<\/h3>\n

The first lesson we can learn about self-control from The Willpower Instinct<\/em> is that a pivotal aspect of making a self-control system work is self-awareness. We should have the capacity to recognize what<\/em> we\u2019re doing while we\u2019re doing it and comprehend why<\/em> we\u2019re doing it.<\/span><\/p>\n

The ability to do so can help us anticipate what our likely actions would be before we actually do them, giving us enough time to reassess our options should we need to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine you were trying to save money for a vacation in Hawaii<\/a>. By being aware of your goal you could prevent yourself from spending money on things you don\u2019t need and instead put it towards your savings. <\/span>Having self-awareness can make you more conscious of your finances and stop you from spending your money frivolously.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Self-control is like a muscle<\/h3>\n

The science behind willpower suggests that we only possess a limited amount of self-control and that it comes from a singular source of strength. That means that if you exert too much of it, you can become defenceless and disadvantaged against other impulses and areas of temptation.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBecause every act of willpower depletes willpower, using self-control can lead to <\/span>losing<\/span><\/i> control.\u201d<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

In her book, Dr. McGonigal explains how Roy Baumeister<\/a>, a psychologist at Florida State University, was one of the first to come to the conclusion of self-control comes from a singular source. <\/span>His research and observations found<\/span>\u00a0that people who resisted sweets were more likely to procrastinate<\/a> and people trying to control their emotions made them more eager to spend their money on things they didn\u2019t need.<\/span><\/p>\n

So, like a muscle, if you use your willpower too frequently without rest, it too will tire out. This can prove to be detrimental as you may find yourself losing control and giving in to temptation.<\/span><\/p>\n

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3. Our future selves = Our present selves<\/h3>\n

We always think of our future selves as having more time<\/a>, more energy, and more willpower to do the things our present selves don’t want to do. That\u2019s why we\u2019re perfectly okay with skipping the gym today as we feel our future selves will just work out twice as hard tomorrow.<\/span><\/p>\n

The reason for this, explains Dr. McGonigal, is because many of us have the misjudgement where we think of our future selves as different people from our present selves. It’s <\/span>the reason why <\/span>although the decisions we make now may have a heavier impact on our future selves if it alleviates us from stress today, we are still inclined to go along with it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, all of this would be fine if our future selves would behave accordingly, however, the reality isn’t likely. This ideal future self that’s supposed to have more drive and dedication rarely comes to fruition.\u00a0The stress and lack of motivation we feel today is probably going to be the same feelings our future self will also feel when it’s time to do the task. <\/span>Therefore, instead of putting off something that seems too arduous to do today, tap into that self-control and do it today. Your future self will thank you for it!<\/span><\/p>\n

4. You can catch self-control<\/h3>\n

Like the common cold or yawning, willpower is contagious. The book includes <\/span>research that has demonstrated how<\/span> easy it can be to be influenced by someone else’s behaviour in a way that can alter yours. This means that if you surround yourself with people who have the ability to go against their impulses without a hitch, then the chances of your self-control improving are promising.<\/span><\/p>\n

Bear in mind that the effect works in both ways. This means if you see someone who lacks self-control and gives in to their urges, then you may find yours declining as well. An interesting finding by researchers at the University of Groningen is that sometimes you don’t even need to see<\/em> people in the act of giving in to their impulses, that seeing evidence is enough for their actions to pass on to us.<\/p>\n

So, in order to keep up the momentum and achieve your long-term goal, it’s best to stick with people who exert the same degree of self-control\u2014if not better\u2014like you.<\/p>\n

5. The more you resist something, the more likely you are to do it<\/h3>\n

The Willpower Instinct<\/em> discusses Daniel Wegner’s theory of ‘Ironic Rebound’ to explain why a thought comes back to us, despite pushing it away and how that can affect our feeling of self-control.<\/p>\n

Daniel Wegner<\/a><\/span> was a psychology professor at Harvard University who discovered that the more we attempted to suppress a thought, the more it will backfire and come back. Like when you try so hard to fall asleep but end up more awake, or when you try to get a catchy song out of your head but it won’t go away.<\/p>\n

The solution? Don\u2019t attempt to suppress your thoughts. Let yourself think the thought and embrace it. Just remember that although you’ve allowed yourself to think about it, it doesn’t mean you have to act on it. Exercise your self-control and ensure you don’t follow through, i.e. think about dessert, just make sure you don’t eat it!<\/span><\/p>\n

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How to Strengthen Self-Control<\/strong><\/h2>\n

Self-control can play an imperative role in transforming your life for the better. In fact, research has found that many people cite a lack of self-control as the number one barrier to change<\/a>. So, to ensure you aren’t hindering your chances, h<\/span>ere are some tips on how you can strengthen your self-control:<\/span><\/p>\n